DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE been seeing a really great girl for three months. The problem is she’s still seeing her ex.
She’s 22 and she’s only ever had sex with that guy. He’s 42 and she says she’ll always have feelings for him.
I’m 31 and I do understand that it’s hard to forget a first love. I’m happy to wait for a while but she’s cheated on me with this guy and she says that she can’t guarantee it won’t happen again.
Of course, I’m not happy with this. He’s not really her ex.
They were more like close friends who got drunk and had sex and shared all their innermost thoughts.
I do love her but if I can’t trust her then what is the point?
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DEIDRE SAYS: You’re in love with a dream. You don’t really know her, while she shares her secrets and body with somebody else. That means there’s not much left for you.
Don’t hang around for crumbs of attention. You’re a kind, loving man but this woman has baggage.
Let her sort herself out but my bet is she’s not going to change. Get out there and find someone free to love you.
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